That's one of the big complaints about the Victron line - they have no native support for 120/240VAC split phase. The most common solution is to buy the 230VAC units, order them as 60Hz and 240V and use an autotransformer as you describe to get 120/240VAC split phase.
You are not limited to 30A of 240V. They have a 100A unit as well. The 32A limit is only on the Neutral. For a 240VAC device, neutral is generally just there to allow for imbalance between the legs, and there is little to no current flowing on the N for 240VAC items, so it could pass 100A of 240VAC. You would just be limited to 32A on a single leg. If you're using items on the other leg, that eases from the 32A limit, i.e., 20A on L1 and 30A on L2 means N is only flowing 10A.
I have that Quattro, and a second that I will eventually configure exactly as I described (parallel, 240VAC split phase). Each leg is limited to the power of the inverter driving that leg, i.e., 5000W per leg and 10000W across both legs.
10kW is a big add to your existing system. Is this going to be for high surge, but low consumption devices, or will you need sustained high power drains?