Thanks for taking the time to reply. The Sterling unit appears to handle the charging portion, however it is way to expensive and didn't seem to handle the parallelling. The other unit PARALLELS both batteries while charging only.did I miss something?
Like I said, I'm not sure there's a device that does exactly what you're asking for. Paralleling Lead-acid and LFP together can be problematic as they both have different charging profiles, the Lead-Acid batteries have very low "float" voltages, so if they're left in parallel, the Lithium battery will get pulled down to that same voltage and will have very limited capacity. This is why people don't generally directly parallel these batteries. I don't know of any way that you can parallel them during discharge without reducing capacity of the Lithium battery.
But the first device I mentioned, the Sterling, will I think solve the problem for you. Yes, it's expensive, but there are cheaper units that run at lower amps. They may also work for you, but they may or may not provide enough amps to solve your problem.
For example here's an 8 amp Sterling that runs 200 British pounds, , they'll happily ship globally. But it will only send 4 amps back to your starter-battery.
https://sterling-power.com/products...Ew5XIngIN08f6Y3nbQDL9k7vxDf248Zxuf7ulD2ECcjT0
You've got some options:
The Sterling unit is a Battery to Battery charger, and these are fairly common - but bi-directional ones are not fairly common, which is one of the reasons the Sterling is more expensive.
The second item I mentioned will parallel them only during charging, and separate them during discharge to avoid discharging the Lithium cell. You could do this, and connect your loads to the Lithium battery instead of the starter battery.