@mjatkey - welcome!
My 2p worth on the Solis side of things...
1) Battery capacity should be set to match the capacity of attached batteries; 280Ah presumably in your case?
2) The Solis's Discharge Depth setting makes no sense to me and I am not sure the Solis makes any use of it. The value should just be the difference between the 'Overcharge SOC' and 'OverDischarge SOC'.
3) It is the Overcharge SOC that stops the Solis charging when the battery reports it has reached that SOC. So, with yours set to 96% you will never achieve full charge. Suggest that value is set to 100%.
4) The OverDischarge SOC stops the Solis from using battery power to supply the AC Grid when the battery reaches that SOC, though note that the Solis will continue to draw approx 30W from the batteries to keep its electronics running when there is no solar DC input. 20% seems a bit high, IMHO, I'd set it to 15% instead. That will then leave enough charge to keep the Solis itself powered once it stops supplying the house load.
5) I would increase the voltage over and under limit protection values. These should never be reached and are only a secondary protection as the BMS will provide the first level protection in case of over or under voltage. But even the BMS's protection should never be hit because of the SOC monitoring for charge and discharge - mine have never been hit in over 2 years. I have my OVP set to 59V and UVP set to 46V on the Solis.
6) Charge and discharge current of 100A is correct for the 5kW and 6kW Solis S5 hybrid EH1P models. The BMS will chose a lower charge rate as it needs to - typically it will do that when SOC heads above 90%/95% and should reduce charge further once 99% or so is reached.