Met with the local electric coop engineer. Underground is really the best option so it would cost $6k to the electric coop, and $6k for trenching IF they don't run into bedrock or large rocks which is common around here...
So, I really don't want to pay 12k to be on the grid.
Here is my plan and feel free to comment.
MPP LV6548 interter
5kw of Lithium batteries - probably going to make them myself
I found 12 395w bifacial new solar panels about 3hrs from my house for $2k.
I think this setup will be sufficient for most of our needs. A large portion of the time we don't need both AC units running. And I'll have a generator in the setup for times when needed, cloudy periods etc.
I plan on building a structure for the panels.
Thanks for yalls help!