If I was arguing with my wife, I would have been more careful to not use the word "everything" because of how it makes her feel. Having to live with her I have a really good reason to care about how she feels, even if she did something stupid. I really dont care how you feel and you have stated that:So, first off the "everything" is simply ridiculous overblown hyperbole, a story you tell yourself to justify your thoughts and reasoning.
As my primary motivation for being a moderator is to promote discussion without personal attacks
Your primary motivation for being a moderator is feelings. I can certainly agree that people should not be "abused" but it has been made clear that you are erroring to far on one side of that line.
The guy with the funny little mustache didnt know what was going on unless people reported on their neighbors either. You are the moderator, just because someone is crying or breaking the rules doesnt mean action must be taken. You are attempting to be virtuous, a good little boy worthy of praise from the powers that be.The reality is I didn't know what was going on in that thread until there were numerous reports, from both sides. That is both sides thought the thread had gone to hell and they were requesting moderator help.
I agree, what it does is provide a window into the person doing the behavior. It also provides an opportunity to correct the behavior. Simply coming around mopping up their mess, giving them points eventually banning them teaches them nothing.I don't believe name-calling, unfounded accusations, or character assassination has any value in free speech.
Also, this argument is like using rape as argument that all abortion should be legal. There probably are not to many people that would not agree that abortion should be an option to people in that situation. Now lets be clear, I am not arguing for or against abortion and this is in no way a political statement. It is simply an example of a disingenuous argument, but that argument is not a valid argument for all abortion just as your argument above is not a valid argument for all editing and deletion.
Personal attacks are a way to stifle discussion when you don't have a solid compelling argument and yet still want to "win". It's a tactic that bullies use.
Yes, you are correct. It is one of the metrics I (and anyone who isnt crying to anyone who will listen) use to know I am on the right track. You shutting it down takes a tool away from me.
Words are not violence. The left is trying its hardest to push narrative that words cause physical injury and then use it as an excuse to go out and commit actual violence. Wake up man.The violence of that language also discourages many from participating, silencing their voices.