Hello and welcome to the forum!
Technically you can get away without the shunt-based capacity monitor but then you'd have no good way of knowing your battery state of charge (SoC). It's almost impossible to just use battery voltage to determine SoC for LFP due to the
flat charge/discharge voltage curve. I don't recommend skipping this part of the build.
The RJ12 extension jack and Renogy-BT1 are definitely not necessary. Especially if you have a battery capacity monitor since that will tell you how much power is coming in when you're charging.
I used
these busbars so that I only had one connection to each of the battery terminals then everything else connected to the busbars that are positioned above the battery. With the 30Ah Amped Outdoors battery on its side there isn't enough room to connect more than one lug and wire to the battery terminals.
See comments about battery monitor above.
Hopefully this helps. Good luck figuring out the best build/system for you.