Unfortunately yes, and because of that I've wanted to get into stocks more, but don't feel comfortable investing it anywhere until some dust has settled.
Don't be like me. I've been doing that since crash of 2009. "The market is too high".
Back in the 90's I met a guy who pulled out of the market when it was too high and didn't get back in. The market passed him by.
I was trying to buy some land, a half-section (320 acres) of Santa Cruz Mountains. We didn't reach an agreement on price, opposite sides of $300k.
I decided to park my money in Schwab S&P 500 fund and Schwab Wilshire 4500 fund until I found something I could buy. I put in a lot, like $thousands/month.
Few years later I looked at the balance and gains, realized I didn't want to sell to move money into real estate. The market would pay for my retirement.
But laid off in 2008 I sold enough stock to cover PITI for 5 years. They rang the bell to call market bottom before I was back in the workforce and that money has remained on the sidelines ever since. While the market has what, doubled? Tripled?
Once again employed, after the rebound, I put 401k money into money market waiting for the next dip. Eventually (like after 5 years more) I finally began contributing to a life-cycle balanced fund.
"Dollar cost average". Start doing it now. Then you will only have partial regrets, not total regret, for mis-timing the market.
It is probably OK to not get in the real estate market, especially in Dallas rather than Bay Area, if you put the same money into maxing out deductible 401k and mega-back-door Roth 401k. I've been doing that since available to me in 2019, like $70k per year.
I prefer to get stuff locally, if at all possible. I use ebay occasionally but most of the stuff on there is ultimately from overseas, I don't want to eat tariff costs.
Right, Tariff very recent.
eBay happens to be first place I go to. Not just to buy junk. I've bought SMA Sunny Island, HP instruments, CATL batteries that way.
Also auto engine and appliance parts, e.g. enter part number from a washing machine timer and find exact match.
Do you pay other people for automobile and appliance repair? Would you pay for computer repair?
It's more that I could easily afford a home in a food desert, but don't want that. I don't eat anything that fancy, but actually having more than one option can be great. I'd live with just a HEB but I have to drive 45m rn to go to one.
And therein lies your problem. You should be able to order premium ingredients and have it arrive in Styrofoam with dry ice.
How much do you spend eating out?
This is NOT a reason to rent in a (relatively) high cost market.
(You pay $1500 for an apartment. We charge $2400 for a 632 sf. one bedroom condo. Money is flowing in the opposite direction in our case.)
I don't pay anyone for computerized services. I host all of my own, so the only cost is the hardware (which i already own and most of it was AWS hardware that was being thrown out), and electricity. The electricity cost is mostly covered by a small solar array at this point. I actually let people use my server for free though, and have no plans on charging them for it.
I could not get by on a slow connection for a cloud hosted server, and it would cost FAR more. I'd be paying literally hundreds a month to have a cloud server comparable to my current one. Like factor of 10+ increased running costs.
My server has 96 cores, half a tb of ram, and about 100tb of storage. It could run this website a hundred timed over without flinching. I mostly use it as my home router though lol.
This server with high bandwidth to its users doesn't need to live at your home.
If you want to own the hardware, you should be able to locate it somewhere in the country, in a rented closet or whatever with T1 or OC192 or whatever you need.
Then all you need is internet for your remote log-in to support it.
And you can live in a more reasonable place.
I work from home and have tried having roommates but none of them respect that I need things to be reasonably quiet to do work.
Fair enough, except you should be pushing 1/4 $million before you think you can call the shots.
If you make $100k that's less than starting salary for someone with good technical education.
I'm well aware i could make 2x or even 3x as much as I do now with my skillsets. I'm reasonably comfortable with my current job and enjoy it. I believe I'm in a position where I can actually make an impact, and am constantly dealing with people who would be down shit creek without a paddle without someone like me being willing to learn and help with this stuff. In mot cases, it's easier to just sell a new product than make things work. I would never work for a MAANG company because I do not agree with their values. I could make much more money at something flashy like a startup, but I'm not really super concerned with "making a lot of money", especially if the work I do for that doesn't align with my values.
Personally, I find it sad that I have to kinda choose between sacrificing my values and being financially comfortable. I guess that's the point things are at though...
Meaning it is entirely a choice.
You've decided to live as a Monk to better the lives of others, some of whom make more than you do.
In our society, most things we do can be valued based on dollars. It may not be a perfect metric, but it makes comparison across disciplines and products easy.
Your choice, your life.
Also WRT hardware, I do a lot of security research, especially with respect to "boot security" and "network security". That sorta stuff basically requires hardware on hand to learn that stuff. You can use VMs to some degree, but it's not really the same thing.
You say you are self-taught, apparently IT or closely related.
That is mostly pounding keyboard, maybe plugging cards.
The security stuff can get deep and is important. Few if anyone know the low-level guts.
It was so simple 40 years ago when I could ask the computer to insert a super-user login into the password file for me.
I used to design computers. Now I don't understand them at all.
You may complain about what we've done to you, but you miss the fact that we gave you everything you have. We are the ones who created everything you take for granted.
Me personally, I designed state of the art microprocessors used in business and technical computers. I worked on telecom networking (short haul city to city). Cellphone cameras. Now improving performance of semiconductor fab equipment necessary for the latest Apple and nVidia processors.
The out of control real estate prices are overseas investors (who can't actually own where they come from) and huge armies of programmers working for social media and related companies like LinkedIn, Google, Facebook, etc. There are 100 of them for every one of us who builds the underlying technology, all focused on promoting more consumer interaction. And earning way to much for mundane work. Half a dozen companies in Silicon Valley pay median salary > $200,000.