So maybe use like a manual switch? Once the bus batteries are topped off switch the current to the RV? Would the cost of the wiring even make it worth it?
I would use a Victron Orion Tr Charger. This would let send the charge current back to the trailer battery to charge it. If the battery in the trailer was full and the battery from the short bus was empty, then the charger would prevent this onrush of current. Victron makes them in up to 30 amp models.
A switch would probably not be as good of a choice. My description of the short bus being done charging early just meant there was enough sun left in the day to charge both. IMO a DC to DC charger would be betterthan a switch for solar.
As to the cost in time and effort, that’s something to look at.
trying to find a camper already solar equipped but most have them have a pretty sad setup from factory
You can design a better system for you than any factory delivered model. The factory delivered models I’ve seen for a fifth wheel seem to be built for someone who is Boondocking with two batteries, which comes out to about 200 ah with perhaps 300 watts of panels tops. THere is a single set of wiring from the roof at 10 gauge.
That will be fine for most people, but running a propane blower fan with a 9 amp draw on a cold below freezing night when the heater is on most of the night, along with other things you do like watch TV and have lights on can drain more than 50% of the battery.
That’s why I think it could be better to design your own for the trailer also. In my case I put 600 watts of panel on my roof to start, 3S2P with two sets of 10 gauge wire To prevent voltage loss. If I’d had a factory set up, I would have needed to drill a hole through the roof to get an extra set of wiring for the next panel anyway. When I built mine, put a oversized conduit that supported the two runs of 10 AWG wire for 3S2P and was able to easily fit another run of 6 AWG wire for panels when I expanded.
Used solar panels off craigslist and a charge controller with wiring from the roof, may be a little more expensive, but could be worth it depending on the power requirements of this trailer.