I understand what you are saying. I guess what I'm getting at is can I blend with an off grid inverter without the risk of backfeeding like with a hybrid.Parallel means the grid AC and the inverter output AC touch directly.
This can happen with systems that don't blend, too, EG active standby.
The relay/contactor stuff people talk about refers to systems where the outputs are air gapped by some sort of isolation. For instance, an inverter in UPS mode can be pre-synchronized to grid (by letting the inverter "see" the waveform via voltage sensors), but the inverter can be kept disconnected from the output while the output is connected to grid.
You and I are both PG&E so you can understand why I'm trying to avoid dealing with them as much as possible.