I enjoy your input and have read much of what you have written over the last year. You have lots of good info here, so lets pretend you won the lottery and are building a new house, and want a new solar system complete, one that you can not use anything you have, can you list what that would be? If you are willing to offer that, then I am very curious where you would buy it. I will ask any of you the same question?
Have to consider whether it is on-grid or off-grid, and if on-grid are utility rates time-of-use?
Good net metering is better and cheaper than the best and cheapest battery. Use that if you can.
I wouldn't use lithium polymer, because even UL listed units have caught fire. Or if I did, located in a separate bunkhouse.
DIY LiFePO4 looks attractive (low price and high cycle life), with cells having welded on studs, and a BMS capable of delivering surge current. Or bypassed with a relay.
The AGM I presently use works fine for high surge current. It wouldn't be good for frequent deep cycling.
If time-of-use rates, it would be good to store PV generated power prior to 4:00 PM and spin the meter backwards 4:00 to 9:00 PM when rates are 3x as high.
I don't have experience with any inverters that do peak shifting. My Sunny Island (23kW continuous 44kW surge from 4 inverters) don't support that. Sunny Boy Storage does, but as a back-up inverter (with separate autotransformer and transfer switch) it is only 6kW continuous, 7.7kW maybe 9kW surge.
For peak shifting, I'd have to look over various companies and products, find something which also supports surge loads to start motors.
But when I looked at my cost for GT PV vs my cost for batteries, I think it is better to backfeed the grid with 3x the kW in the morning rather than buying a battery to store 1x the kW to be delivered during peak rates.
Rather than just an array facing South, I would have arrays facing SE and SW, so power production is spread over the day. This reduces peak battery charge current or grid export and gives more hours of production, for about 40% more Wh/day.
I would consider 3-phase. With my present split-phase utility connection, I could have only 6.7kW come from grid or backfeed grid through the 56A relay of one 120V Sunny Island. The other two would create the missing phases. With 3-phase connection 3x as much power could pass through, or off-grid 6x as much PV power could be supported. What I have now is split-phase with four Sunny Island, so 26 kW can pass through.
PV panels - find one known to be reliable. Accelerated stress testing shows high failure rates for some brands, as has field experience. When I added on last year one I considered was SunPower. Nothing I read questioned reliability, only whether it was worth the higher price. There was also that claim that of N-type silicon doped to make a cell vs. P-type, one has lower degradation rate, and that's what SunPower used. I'm not certain about the claims, but went with that brand. There was one model "P17" series I considered but it had some new and unusual aspects to how it was built so I bought more conventional "E20" series instead.
Software/firmware - I don't want anything updated. The boxes should work together as delivered and perform the functions specified in the manual. Shouldn't have to push updates to get the to do what was originally promised. Maybe a manual update to change from UL-1741 to UL-1741SA if desired.
Internet connectivity - Don't want to be a victim of Stuxnet, Sandworm, or the like. Nothing from the outside should be able to change the system unless I authorize it. A method to push data would be OK if there are no vulnerabilities, but I don't trust software, especially networking.
For the functions it does implement, my Sunny Island/Sunny Boy system works fine. I would use older transformer type inverters not the newer transformerless, because I think they're better at filtering out poor power-factor from switching power supplies like a VFD I have.
I have wondered if Sunny Boy Storage would work on a Sunny Island system, responding to frequency-watts and storing/providing power when needed. That would keep AGM batteries on Sunny Island always floating, except when they supply surges. Sunny Boy Storage is transformerless, and at least some of the 400V batteries compatible with it are lithium polymer. REC offers BMS for high cell count batteries; that might work to make a 128s LiFePO4 battery (100 kWh) for Sunny Boy Storage.
I know there are other good brands such as Schneider, Outback, Victron, but I don't have experience with them. I might consider if they had features I needed. I would look for units that could be stacked for higher wattage.
Where to buy - used/overstock vendors like SanTan have good deals on PV panels compared to retail outlets. There are probably other vendors who are good but I have bought from him.
For inverters and batteries, I've used Google to find listings, also eBay. Many retailers use eBay as a platform to advertise and it is the first place I look for everything. (But for LiFePO4 cells, forum members have identified good sources.)
I'm obviously not looking for a lot of support - I'm an EE and a contractor. For the inverters I've used SMA's help system.
Some of the retailers can put together a package and design the series/parallel configuration. AltE store for instance, who is represented on this forum.