While not as safe as with a resistor, this is what I did that one time I did this. I had a Bluetooth BMS on each battery string.
1. Connected first battery, let it fully charge, in the BMS control turn it off.....making the BMS open circuit, taking the battery out of the system.
2. Connect the second battery and let it fully charge, then remove input power from the charger
3. Took measurements of both batteries with my meter and the BMS monitor to understand any meter offsets that might come into play.
4. Put a light load on the second battery, remove the load, and see what the static voltage is....repeat until the static voltage on battery 2 is equal with the voltage on battery #1.
5. Using the BMS control, turn battery #1 back on, which puts the first battery in the charge/discharge mode, parallel to battery #2.
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