My wife and I had a similar discussion before we went with the first solar build I did.
We had watched shows in the past years ago where people would show a solar setup in their homes and it was :
"The system is awesome! Oh no we dont do this or that unless the suns up or we cant use that appliance unless the suns up and the weathers pretty"
My wife and I are like "well thats about stupid"
Our rule of thumb when we built the system was to save power where we could but we refused to do without ANYTHING.
So only things that were low power or not required made it to the solar side all the time with higher loads only when no one was using them.
Made for a happy wife and that makes for a happy life