Ok back to what I said a couple posts ago. Sounds like there could be something wonky with your shore charging/converter. I don’t know much about them but have heard several people like
@HRTKD say that even with the lithium module, they don’t work well. Iirc, there was a long thread a couple of years ago about this.
So the Victron IP22 chargers not only will charge your battery on shore power, they will provide 12v power, with or without a battery attached. A pretty easy install.
But my guess is your converter is also the device that does the alternator charging. Is that so? If so, then replacing it with a Victron DC-DC charger will do that as well but better but the install isn’t as simple. Is there any way you can keep the alternator charging of your converter but not enable the shore part? I mean it can be done with rewiring things but I’m wondering if there’s simply a switch that turns it off?