Three phases were (and still sometimes are) synchronized with three simple light bulbs .
Trying to think of anyplace I have ever seen done by hand.
And I can't.
They do make relays and there are some simple and fool proof ways to wire things up to do this automatic, without computers and or human intervention.
The reason is if your operator screws up it can be a train wreck.
The MEP generators in a previous post here are militarized version of the Onan DJC and its got a design feature in that slaves the regulator of one to another.
All of this is done automatically to prevent people from screwing it up.
Honda and some other brands of modern inverter generators can be tied together by design.
One should not try and mix and match things that are not specifically designed to.
There are ways it can be done, but that does not mean its a good idea.
If you need a bigger set get one.
If the set you have is too big get a smaller one.
Run one or the other but not both together.
If you read that last line and follow it you will always have one generator that still works waiting in reserve lol....
Opinion:
Buy a good quality inverter generator the right size and use that.
If you spy a good old Kohler, or Onan from days gone past of the saturated field type, exciter cranked and in decent condition ( or bad condition if you like a challenge... I don't know your skill level. ) buy it.
( do you know the value of it though, thats a question in itself, can you evaluate the condition of said equipment yourself )
Buy that iron old timer and keep it as a spare, when your experiments lead to darkness old iron will lead you back into the light.....
Electricity is really dangerous and painful stuff to mess with.
Don't experiment with it.
Know what you are doing, or do not attempt it.
Something to remember a good proper sized generator was chosen to match your needs.
It costs you money but in the long run its worth it.
A bad generator is worth about 15 cents a pound when your done with it.