Here are some screenshots of my settings.Settings.
Note that as I recall, the virtual switch must be disabled in order to be able to use assistants. Although I believe you are currently using ESS assistant, so I'm sure you are aware of this already.
I'm pretty sure that I'm using the default values for the frequency shift numbers, as those work quite well with the Fronius. I have the Fronius configured for MG60 (micro grid/ 60Hz). Having it set to that will help with keeping frequency shift working smoothly.
I did have a little bit of issues (mostly a mild annoyance) of one or 2 lights flickering at times when Fronius production was within a few hundred watts of power consumption. Fronius told me to adjust a setting that controls the response time for the Fronius, and that greatly improved the issue! I do think the lights that flickered were partly responsible for the issue, but was impressed that I was able to mostly clean up that issue!
The biggest drawback of this setup (for me specifically) is that my solar is all AC coupled, therefore if the batteries run low enough to shut down the Victron inverters, the only way to get solar out of a deadlock is to either get a gen charging via the Victrons or reconfigure the low battery shutdown voltage with all load breakers off to get AC power back on for the Fronius.
It would be beneficial to at least have some solar just going to a charge controller, and I believe I don't use a high enough portion of my solar directly as it's produced, to be ahead in terms of efficiency. I only use ~30% directly, so ~70% goes through inverters to battery, then back through inverters to loads.