Greetings and thanks to all that has helped me!
I was going the return the 5000ES and get a 6kw split phase unit, but how can I be sure the 6kw unit disconnects its transformer (internally) when going into bypass mode? I looked at the manual at it doesn't say on way or another. So, I think I'll explore the route of "never hook the inverter to the grid" . So here is what I'm thinking...
1) place contactors on the AC input of the inverter and AC output of the autotransformer. If the AC output contactor is engaged, then the AC input contractor is disabled, thus inverter can no longer go into a bypass mode, yet allow to charge the batteries if needed.
3) the 5000es has a beefy battery charger 80amp, if the batteries get real low, switch to grid (that enables the AC in for the inverter by disabling the AC output contactor), Once the batteries are charged, switch off grid disconnecting the AC input
4) Obtain another battery charger (smaller) that could be used to top the batteries off and prevent the need to switch to grid most of the time. Configure it to only be enabled if the AC input contactor is off, thus only one charger can be enabled concurrently.
5) Being a microcontroller nut, I'll build something that monitors the inverters call for generator (which likely means bypass mode) and disable the AC output contactor (and allow me to control it over wifi ). The input to transfer switches trigger are also available so I can control them as well, allowing me to choose the input source for the 3 load panels.
Does this seem reasonable? Any tweaks?