On the charging issues - JRed and I recently got my batteries in and top balanced them. He got them a few days before I got there and put them in sets of 4 on a 12V Victron charger without a BMS. 2 of the cells went up to 3.8V before he caught it and shut them down.
I ordered an iCharger S6 which arrived the same day I got there. We hooked up each set of 4 in parallel and charged at 3.65V. The iCharger is awesome, by the way. 40A at any voltage you want up to around 14.6V. (maybe higher, I haven't checked) Most of the sets were full in 10-20 minutes, but 2 of the groups ran much longer. I forget the exact amount of time but it was around 10 hours. From 0 it would have taken 28 hours at 40A, and was nowhere near that.
The 2 cells that went high settled right back down once we put them in parallel. They are now working in the full 16s banks, and are all balanced to within 10mV. There was no swelling at all. So a bit of over-voltage is fine, nothing to worry about. Along the way I did some research and found that people used to charge these above 4V and discovered that battery life suffered, so they gradually eased it back and 3.65 as a max is now a de-facto standard. But that does not mean they can't ever go over that and will immediately die. It's more like many cycles at higher voltages will begin to do damage and shorten life.
I recommend the iCharger. S6 is 40A, X6, X8, and X12 are 30A. All are fairly similar, just have different numbers of balance leads. Their price/performance/precision/flexibility is better than any other charger I've seen for the 0-15V range.