OK... Lemme splain.
1) The precharge circuit is to precharge the capacitors in the Multiplus when it is connected. Period. You don't have anything else that would require it. Since you cannot separate the charge/discharge of the multiplus, it goes onto the discharge contactor.
1a) If you do install a contactor on the charge sources, then sure, you may want to add a precharge as insurance. You could possibly create a scenario where you arc. But seriously you don't need a charge source contactor if you just use the enable function that victron provides on most of their gear. On my system, everything, including the tow charge controller has it.
2) Regarding your slides, mine has 30a resetting breakers from the factory. This is a good way to go since if the motor loads up it can trip, but then reset and work again. (Mine tripped the other day, trust me it was better to not need to crawl around and hope I had a fuse.)
3) For your charge sources except the multiplus, you do not need a pre-charge/contactor, provided they have/or support an enable feature, which the victron gear does. (check the models of your SCC, it can vary but most of the ones above base do)
4) I think you mentioned something about your brake controller but I don't wanna scroll right now - I use a small SLA battery to run my breakaway system. Account for this in your design. If your battery has disconnected, those brakes need power in case of trailer disconnect. I added a small breakaway charge controller (like $5) to charge it when towing.
Finally, if you haven't bought a BMS yet, you may want to consider the electrodacus SBMS0.