Hmmm. I love Victron for how it intuitive it is. But, it's not a plug-it-in and it "mostly works" kind of system. It's super modular, and that brings some complexity. I'm surprised you didn't reach out to me to ask for help. I know I don't hang around this forum much anymore, but I'm still alive!
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Once you set the installation up in VRM, it's pretty easy to modify settings on VE.Bus devices.
I get that needing an adapter to program a Multi/Quattro seems weird in this day in age, but I do think it's important to understand that Victron has been doing this for nearly 50 years. And, as such, they have a fair amount of "cruft" in the VE.Bus system. But it's rock-solid and just works. We recently built a 60kVA, 300kWh, 105kW system for an off-grid business. Aside from physical installation and cabling, it's no more difficult to configure than a basic system. It helps to be an engineer, but it's hardly required. We teach installers over the course of two days, everything from single-inverter RV systems to 3-phase C&I systems. Ten minutes with someone experienced in Victron systems could have saved you hours of pain. That's what the commenter meant by your Victron experience is wholly dependent on who you purchase from.
I remember all the fun you had with those "simple" MP inverters. Cheap, reliable, easy. You get to pick two.
I know this sounds quite conceited, but if you buy a high-performance, sophisticated machine from just any schmoe, then in all probability you're not going to have a good experience. Unless it's a hobby, or you're just broke, it's often worth seeking the advice of a professional. For example, I would never attempt to laser cut and nickle plate custom buss bars, but I know a guy...